Common Mistakes in Parenting a Child

There are different parenting techniques which are used by different parents around the globe, of which three most common are as follow:

  • Authoritarian
  • Permissive
  • Authoritative

Parenting styles are categorized on the basis of two dimensions of parenting behavior:

Demandingness refers to the extend parents control their children’s behavior or demand their maturity.

Responsiveness refers to the degree parents are accepting and sensitive to their children’s emotional and developmental needs.

(This type of parenting is high in demandingness and low in supportiveness)

Basically it refers to such type of parenting in which there is no flexibility for the young ones.

It is characterized by:

  • Strictness.
  • Inflexibility.
  • High expectations.
  • Punishment.

Permissive:

(This type of parenting style is said to be the friendliest one)

It is characterized by:

  • Affection
  • Nurture.
  • Few or no rules.
  • Warm and responsive.

Authoritative:

(This type of parenting style is the proportional one i.e. high expectation are associated with reinforcement and affection)

It is characterized by:

  • Defined boundaries.
  • Discipline through guidance.
  • Open communication.

 

The parents who fail in parenting their child in an appropriate manner damages their children future life. The most recommended and best parenting style is the authoritative one.

Children of authoritative parents are:

  • Happy and content.
  • Are more independent.
  • Achieve higher academic success.
  • Develop good self-esteem.
  • Interact with peers using competent social skills.
  • Have better mental health — less depression, anxiety, suicide attempts, delinquency, alcohol and drug use.

 

Children under the other two parenting styles may suffer from:

  • Disposition
  • Insecurity
  • Lower self-esteem.
  • Behavioral problems.
  • Worse academic results.
  • Poor social skills.
  • Mental issues
  • Egocentric tendencies.
  • More problems in relationships and social interactions.

Sometimes parents are unable to understand the caliber, moods, and temperament of their children and this can also affect their children badly.

Three most common mistakes of parents are as follow:

  1. Fail to recognize child’s mood and temperament:

There are always two sides of the coin sometimes the child is happy and sometimes they are depressed. “Everyone has bad or off mood sometimes. That’s totally natural there is nothing to worry about. A mood disorder, however, deals with depression and bipolar disorder, which is manic behavior (depressive) caused by chemical imbalances of neurotransmitter in the brain.

Many parents are in denial that there might be something wrong with their young ones. They do not think that there is some problem with their child so they do not chalk up bad behavior of their child.

  1. Clinging to Traditional Parenting styles:

Some parents might stick themselves with traditional parenting style i.e. Authoritarian. They just to show others remain strict with their children and always demand and expect high results from them. This will ultimately damage their self-esteem and they may suffer from some mood disorder. If you try to levy disciplinary action at that point, it’s only going to escalate the meltdown. The best thing to do is delay the consequences, and not engage in the fight. For instance, you can say to your child, ‘That was a bad choice and I’m not going to argue with you, but there will be consequences later for your disobedience and I will tell you what they are in the evening.’ Then, when it’s calm, sit down with your child and explain the repercussions.”

 

  1. Neglecting to get counseling for yourself.

Yes! There are some parents who even after knowing that their children are suffering from some mood disorder, do not get their child for proper counseling. And just for the sake of their social image they do not take their children to counsellors because there is a myth that whoever goes for counselling is mentally ill and just to avoid labelling parents do not get their children to the counselor and this even makes the situation even worse.

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